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#stay alive

To anyone out there (not just teens) who has ever felt hopeless about life because your gender or sexuality doesn’t fit the ridiculously rigid social standards that exist today:  your life is worthwhile and worth living.  Don’t ever forget that, even if there are people who push you to feel otherwise.  Some periods in life are really tough, and I don’t know why it has to be that way, but the parts of life that are beautiful make it all worthwhile.  You should love whomever you want to love and present yourself however you feel most comfortable, and you should do so without shame.  Having only binary options in our social system for gender and sexuality is what is unnatural and shameful – not anything about you.

For another awesome “it gets better” video, check out the one by genderpanic’s favorite gender outlaw Kate Bornstein.  Also listen to Ellen DeGeneres’ important message about bullying.  And for frequent reminders from fellow queers, activists, and youth about the importance of staying …

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‘a letter to my body’ from an intersex woman

In this edition of the BBC’s podcast “The Essay,” therapist Sarah Graham tells a powerful and incredibly personal story, of finding out at the age of twenty-five that she is an intersex woman who has XY chromosomes.  Graham is an excellent speaker, and her Letter to My Body is an eloquent but scathing discussion about the harm that adhering to a medical and social gender binary can cause.  Her piece is only 15 minutes long and definitely worth listening to.

Unfortunately this audio clip is only available for a limited time, so do listen to it before October 4!  I’ll try my best to find a more permanent link.

to all gay teens: it gets better

“It Gets Better,” a new youtube channel by Dan Savage, is the best creation I’ve seen in ages.  Savage is the sex advice columnist for The Stranger (Seattle’s “only newspaper”), and he and his husband are both gay rights activists.  This channel is aimed at queer teens, especially those who are isolated in small towns and do not have access to a queer community and support groups.  It’s primary goal is to remind young people that life really does get better after junior high and high school, and that suicide doesn’t fix anything; it only robs you of all of the opportunities yet to come.

As Kate Bornstein always says: “do whatever you need or want to do in order to make life worth living.  Love who and how you want to love.  Just don’t be mean.”  Savage and his husband convey this message of hope in a way that is endearing and uplifting – definitely watch this one!  User submissions of your own “it gets better” …

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still working on my definition...

This comic made me feel better about still not finding a ‘real’ job.  Check out the “Stuff No One Told Me” comic blog where I found it.